An idiosyncrasy is a unique and distinctive behavior that is generally exclusive or identifiable to you and is mostly recognized and made fond of by those in your circle(s). You may have a snort when you laugh, or you may always sneeze as soon as you begin to eat; or you may have a special thing that you do when you are in your thinking mode, or that particular way you act when you are extremely tired. You may even have a quirky thing that you do when you’re excited. You may pass-gas or even hick-up when you’re nervous, or burp when your back is rubbed, or wrestle with your feet or hands under the table when you don’t know what to say or do next. An idiosyncrasy that is identifiable to you, doesn’t mean that you are the only one in the world that has that specific behavior to that precise thing. There are communities and groups for almost everything these days for people who share “weird”, normal or just similar things in common.
Are you aware of your own idiosyncrasies or the ones others have made you aware of? Do you acknowledge that you do them or are you in denial? Or you proud of them or sometimes embarrassed by them? Have you ever thought about whether or not your idiosyncrasies hurts you or helps you? Have you ever thought about whether or not your idiosyncrasies draws others to you or sends them in the opposite direction? Life can be very push and pull, give and take, stretched and loosed, bound and free. Some things that one may think defines us may be uncontrollable and some are controllable. Some, can be so bizarre that it can truly create the most authentic of relationships or some can be so off-the-wall, that it can constantly put those around you to the test.
At some point we have to draw a line between who we are and the idiosyncrasies that are stamped in our bodies DNA. When we think about who we are, it is detrimental to only validate our behaviors, especially the ones that support or back the words of our mouth, by things, environments, experiences or people that have made us who we are or contributed to who we are. Applying wisdom, shows us a glimpse of who we can be or who we want to become so that we can compare how near or far we are from here to there. We are always a work in progress and should never give up on self growth no matter how much work is ahead of us. To grow is to advance, to build, to develop, to expand, to stretch, to thrive, to cut back the stunted or diseased branches, to flourish, to become. If we lack that progression, we stop, we halt, we cease. And when that happens, it causes backups in our lives that continually sets us back, due of a buildup of behaviors that does not help us.
If we choose not to draw the line and decide to hang on to those adverse behaviors, just because we feel that “it defines us or makes us who we are”, it begins a deteriorating process that continually pushes back on any good thing that would require security and nourishment on more than just a temporary basis. Therefore it is wise to compare ourselves to who we want to become and continually work towards it.
Our idiosyncrasies should not define who we are but should rather overtime create historical moments over the course of our lives that can be talked about in reverence, connecting and bridging gaps of uncommonness with noteworthy peculiar people (like yourself) for generations to come. Our idiosyncrasies is not who we seek to become but rather it is impressions that are carved out of the essence of our workmanship.
“For we are His workmanship [His own master work, a work of art], created in Christ Jesus [reborn from above—spiritually transformed, renewed, ready to be used] for good works, which God prepared [for us] beforehand [taking paths which He set], so that we would walk in them [living the good life which He prearranged and made ready for us].” Ephesians 2:10 AMP