Understanding is something that is necessary, but not everyone grasps it the same way. In life we will constantly find ourselves in the position where we have to explain things to others. And regardless of the topic, depending on the willingness of each side to ‘unfold their words’, meaning rephrase, reword, express or put things differently so that it can be understood, it can sometimes bring frustration, anger, and many other ill feelings. It can even harden ones heart to understanding some things because of the inability to grasp a concept thereby hindering ones ability to accept.
Psalm 119:130 ESV tells about how the Lord gives understanding. It says “The unfolding of your words gives light; it imparts understanding to the simple.”
Patience is one of the fruits of the spirit that is often required depending on the length of the process in the unfolding of our words. Colossians 4:6 ESV says “Let your speech always be gracious, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how you ought to answer each person.”
God has lead the way by being our prime example so that we can follow his ways effectively. But to do so we have to use his tools as well.
“Hear, O children, the instruction of a father, And pay attention [and be willing to learn] so that you may gain understanding and intelligent discernment. For I give you good doctrine; Do not turn away from my instruction.”
Proverbs 4:1-2 AMP
“Get wisdom! Get understanding! Do not forget, nor turn away from the words of my mouth. Do not forsake her, and she will preserve you; Love her, and she will keep you. Wisdom is the principal thing; Therefore get wisdom. And in all your getting, get understanding. Exalt her, and she will promote you; She will bring you honor, when you embrace her. She will place on your head an ornament of grace; A crown of glory she will deliver to you.” Hear, my son, and receive my sayings, And the years of your life will be many.”
Proverbs 4:5-10 NKJV